My (right handed) husband has learned to stay still and just
let me kiss him whichever way I want to!! I have had this problem going in for a
hug as well, I clash heads with the other person, who is trying to go the same
way as me... Again, I thought it was just me being strange and didn't link it to
handedness! Thanks- you have made me feel a lot better about my apparent
inability to hug someone without clashing!
My son's wedding was a nightmare - kissing the female guests as they went into
the reception. I just had to do it the right-handed way but this was wrong for
several ladies - I can only assume that they were left-handed.
~ David Welford
I usually wait to see which side the other person is going toward, and go with
that. I have had problems, thou, when it comes to just giving a friendly hug, as
to which side to put my head. :-) I would like to say, thou, this is the first
survey I've ever filled out where, when asked whether to choose left or right,
that "left" is listed first!! Thank you!!!
I laughed out loud when I read this! MANY times I have accidentally brushed
against someone's nose or even lips! Which would be okay if it happened to a
man...but usually this happens when I go to greet another woman. TOO FUNNY!
~ Kimberly Spruill
I've had this problem ever since I was a little girl. I first remember it on
visits to my aunt who's husband is very European and always insisted on the
double cheek kiss. I used to start getting nervous during the long car journey
to their house knowing that I was going to have to kiss him, and that inevitably
I would headbut him on the nose and feel very uncultured and silly. Until now
I've never thought about it as a lefty issue, just a social thing about Brit's
not being totally au fait with continental greetings! But now I'm thinking it
was just me all along!
~ Zoe Lewis, UK
Ah, for once I'm a "natural" left-handed kisser. I can finally explain the
greeting-at-the-door dance I've done with my mother for almost 50 years!
~ Ellen Newton Hausler, USA
As a single person actively dating, I find this
happens often. We both end up doing a little dance/head bob thing and end up
looking goofy. Fortunately, I can usually laugh this off with the person I am
Here in Spain, when greeting, most people move first to the right side, then the
left. A standard two kiss greeting. I got used to this after a few months,
feeling comfortable and having little to none embarrassing clashes.
THEN, I took a weekend trip to Italy, only to find out that they kiss starting
on their left. Man, did it mess me up! I had many close call lip or nose kisses!
~ Jill, Spain
My, that is soooo true. I do it all the time and get really funny looks when
things do not go exactly as I had planned!! I did think it was me, but it is
reassuring to know I am not alone....
~ Stephanie, UK
Just thought you'd like a Rightie's opinion (my son is the leftie in the
family). I never thought of this kissing as a potential problem--your
newsletters always make me aware of something new, which helps to understand
what my son may encounter as he grows (he is almost 5.) Thank you!
~ Amy, USA
I had a really embarrassing moment with this. I ended up kissing my friend's
husband full on the lips. My daughter stood there and looked stunned. I felt so
embarrassed and my 8 year old said 'what about daddy?' I couldn't stop laughing
later but I had some explaining to do to my partner and my friend! I now often
wait to see which side the other person is going, which could make me appear
stand offish. Oh well better than lots of lip kissing!!!
~ Justine King, UK
I just wonder if any one out there is like me when I'm out with friends walking
I have to be on the left side of road when walking and on the left of people
when I'm talking otherwise I feel uneasy I find playing sports hard too as I'm a
left hand and foot I seem to miss the ball because of the right-handers throw or
Receiving change from shop assistant - I nearly always find
myself struggling to hold it without the coins falling all over the floor. (I'm
talking about a combination of notes and coins). I think it's because people
naturally hand change as if the person receiving will hold out their right hand
- but I hold out my left.
~ Emma Hurley
It's unbelievably true!!! but it has major advantages, my current boyfriend,
then only best friend, was trying to kiss me goodbye and we ended up kissing
~ 'Rocket Queen'
When going to a cinema or theatre I am always drawn like a magnet to the left
hand side to find a seat. If I have to sit on the right hand side I don't feel
comfortable all night and just sit
there thinking how much better I would enjoy the film etc if I was on the left.
Is this common with other people?
~ Maureen Elliott
Myself and one of my best friends were going out later that night well, we were
trying on clothes and she wanted to try on the shorts I was wearing-with a belt.
when she got them on and was trying to use the belt, she was having trouble
getting it undone so she could do it. as she was having trouble, she made the
comment "you and your left handedness." I had not realized she was having
trouble with doing the belt until she said that and I asked what she meant.
Evidently,I had my belt "backwards". I have to wonder how many other "leftisms"
there are that we (lefties) are unaware of?
~ Anonymous, USA
Solved by embracing with the left arm, kissing the right cheek - my left arm
around shoulder of friend being greeted - I serve as a church greeter, so I have
"perfected" this over the years! (a left-hander adapting to what works best...)
~ Robert Callet, USA
I've learned through trial and error. I "fake" motion to kiss on the cheek and
wait to see which direction the other person moves then proceed and continue the
friendly kiss on the cheek from there.
~ Shirley, USA
It works the same way when walking past someone but don't know which side to let
them pass you on, so you end up doing a little dance and bounce on both feet
before one person takes
the lead and chooses a side. the difference is, it's with your neck and so you
end up looking stupider! although it can be quite humorous
~ Laura Piplica, UK
Whenever I read a book and the author describes a scene, I always find later, as
the plot unfolds that I have visualized it completely the wrong way round, as a
mirror image. Is it me?
~ Linda Dainton, UK
Polite kissing is difficult - I also have a hang-up about shaking hands on
meeting new people.
Another observation I've had is putting on belts. I don't know if this has been
shared before but I put on a belt backwards, as in using my left hand and
inserting it in the right side. Most of the time its hard to notice a
difference, but there's belts out there, like ones with buckles that end up
being upside down. I know it's not just me because two other left-handers I know
do the exact same thing, so I was wondering how many other left-handers do this
~ Scott Farrar, USA
Handshakes! I naturally put out my left hand...d'oh! Oh the trials of living in
a right handed world...
~ Nancy Hopkins, UK
I bump noses thought I was just awkward. Also I have difficulties with locks and
keys is it just me ?
~ Frances Todd, UK